Lately I’ve felt a strong need to talk about and write about the topic of CONFIDENCE.
My observation is there are too many people struggling with this area of life, too many people that lack confidence – and to clarify, I’m not talking about just being loud or outspoken, as often this is just another expression of a lack of confidence, when we try to over compensate. I’m referring to a sense of inner confidence, being content and comfortable to our own skin – this type of true confidence gives us the steadiness to be silent when we need to be silent, strong when we need to be strong, and bold when we need to be bold.
The importance of this kind of confidence is paramount to our quality of life, check out this scripture…
“Do not, therefore, fling away your [fearless] confidence, for it has a glorious and great reward.”
Hebrews 10:35 AMP
Here’s a little clip of how easily we can “fling away” our confidence…
I’ve discovered that this confidence ultimately comes down to our sense of assurance, our sense of resolve about who we are and our own self worth. When we don’t have this assurance, we are living in a place of double-mindedness, where we are neither here nor there, and therefore are being tossed around by every circumstance and criticism that comes our way – we are at the mercy of what life and people throw at us. This is never a good place to live.
As a side note, I believe the rampart attack on peoples confidence today is largely due to the over intoxication of media, breeding a deadly virus we call COMPARISON, which is slowly eating away our confidence.
I believe our lack of confidence is fuelled by two main factors:
- OVERLY CARING ABOUT THE OPINIONS OF OTHERS
- PAST FAILURES AND DISAPPOINTMENTS
A couple of years ago during a game of football (soccer) I was knocked over and fell onto my shoulder, slightly breaking my AC joint, I couldn’t play for a bit over a month and I remember during my first game back I was noticeably more cautious. Because of the injury, my confidence had been knocked and it took me a little while to regain it and play my game the way I normally would.
This can be the same for our soul, when we get knocked, either by life or by other people, it can break our confidence, causing us to shrink back and live cautiously. The problem with this is that we stop living to our full potential, we miss opportunities because we’re afraid of being hurt and we’re always on the back foot, slaves to fear and intimidation.
What we need to understand is that true confidence isn’t based on external circumstances, and therefore external circumstances can’t effect it. Life and people will always knock us around, there will always be people who disagree with us, there will always be things that don’t go our way, no matter who we are, this won’t change, but we don’t need to let it rule us the way we so often do.
The fact is, true inner confidence that is steady and immovable can only be found in something is equally steady and immovable – this is God’s perfect love.
“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear…”
1 John 4:18a NIV
When we receive God’s perfect, unshakable love, it drives out fear like an unwelcome house guest and replaces it with hope, who sets up camp in our hearts and becomes the new ruling force.
Fear is negative expectation, hope on the other hand, is positive expectation, it’s this hope that gives us that new life, confidence and boldness – it’s a hope that isn’t worried even when things don’t go to plan, because it’s not a hope based on outcome, it’s a hope based on an unchanging eternal reality.
“Therefore, since we have such a hope, we are very bold.”
2 Corinthians 3:12 NIV
For some crazy reason, I’ve found that often it’s Christian’s who lack this confidence the most, holding onto a very unbiblical victim mentality – if you’re reading this and resonate with what I’m saying, please hear me, this is not what God wants for you.
“For God did not give us a spirit of timidity or cowardice or fear, but [He has given us a spirit] of power and of love and of sound judgment and personal discipline [abilities that result in a calm, well-balanced mind and self-control].”
2 Timothy 1:7 AMP
To finish, I want to leave you with one of my favourite scriptures…
“Though an army besiege me,
my heart will not fear;
though war break out against me,
even then I will be confident.”
Psalm 27:3 NIV
My prayer is that we wouldn’t bow down to intimidation and wouldn’t let fear be a permanent resident in our hearts, but instead, we’d understand and receive God’s love, allowing Him to fill us with all hope, a hope that makes us confident and free!
Hope this has helped!